Tatemae (建前?), literally "facade," is the behavior and opinions one displays in public. Tatemae is what is expected by society and required according to one's position and circumstances, and these may or may not match one's honne.
The other night I was watching a segment on ESPN about sumo wrestling and they mentioned the words Honne and Tatemae. I was immediately intrigued...
I think all writers, whether they realize it or not, suffer from tatemae haunts. We may not lie, but we definitely omit certain aspects of our lives for whatever reasons...and I'm fine with that.
I think it makes the honne moments more special...
Do you think it's wrong to only share who you truly are with a set group of people or should we all be striving to live our truths publicly?
I've been chewing on that question for awhile now...
PS I LOVE the images that come up when you google search "Honne and Tatemae"
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